Duck's 3 reasons for relationship breakdown
Lack of Skills
poor social skills = not good at showing interest / providing rewarding interactions
- relationship may break down because partner thinks they're not interested
Lack of stimulation
People thinking their relationship is boring/not going anywhere can help justify the end of relationship
Relationships can be strained because partners don't see eachother enough
- relationship may break down due to overwhelming strain
Evaluating Duck's 3 reasons
- Boekhout et al (1999) - affairs can be due to a lack of skills or stimulation in the current relationship
- Couples coping Enhancement training developed b/c of social skills importance in relationships. Has been shown to increase marital quality
- The 3 reasons don't account for gender differences. women = unhapiness + incompatability are reasons for breakup and want to remain friends. Men = sexual withholding is reason for breakup and don't want to remain friends.
- Holt + Stone (1988) - not a decrease in relationship satisfaction over distance so long as they can reunite regularly
Rollie + Duck (2006) breakdown process
partner focuses on relationship disatisfaction without expressing it to their partner
confront partner. Thoughts + feelings expressed. Relationship could be saved.
family + friends get involved. Could speed process up.
Grave Dressing Process:
constructs representation of failed relationship that makes them look good.
learn from past mistakes and prepare for new relationship.
Evaluating Rollie and Duck (2006)'s process
- Tashiro + Frazier (2003) - observed breakups. People get distressed but experience personal growth. Grave dressing + resurrection allows them to get on with lives
- Model shows importance of communication. Listening to couples speak during breakdown process helps indicate what stage they're at and what repair strategy to be used
- Ethical issues. protection from harm, privacy and confidentiality