reasons for r/s breakdown
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- reasons for r/s breakdown
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- lack of skill
- Some people lack interpersonal skills to make r/s mutually satisfying – Duck
- Others see them as uninterested leading to r/s breakdown.
- Some people lack interpersonal skills to make r/s mutually satisfying – Duck
- Lack of stimulation
- Social exchange theory – people look for rewards in r/s
- One is stimulation
- No stimulation leads to breakdown
- Baxter – lack of stimulation often quoted when breaking off r/s.
- People expect r/s to change and develop and if they don’t then they see justification to end r/s and start new one
- Baxter – lack of stimulation often quoted when breaking off r/s.
- No stimulation leads to breakdown
- One is stimulation
- Social exchange theory – people look for rewards in r/s
- Maintenance difficulties
- Strain on r/s when partners can’t see each other enough – Shaver
- Uni places great strain on existing r/s
- Enduring romantic r/s can be strong enough to survive but many don’t
- Uni places great strain on existing r/s
- Strain on r/s when partners can’t see each other enough – Shaver
- Extramarital affairs
- Boekhout et al – affairs might be direct reaction to perceived lack of skills or stimulation in current r/s
- Undergrads asked to rate various sexual and emotional reasons for infidelity – sexual reasons more used by men and emotional by women
- Boekhout et al – affairs might be direct reaction to perceived lack of skills or stimulation in current r/s
- Maintenance difficulties
- Long-distance romantic r/s and long-distance friendships are very common
- Rohlfing et al – 70% students sampled experienced at least one LDRR. 90% experienced one LDF
- Holt and Stone – little decrease in satisfaction as long as partners able to reunite regularly
- Rohlfing et al – 70% students sampled experienced at least one LDRR. 90% experienced one LDF
- Long-distance romantic r/s and long-distance friendships are very common
- Gender difference
- Women more likely to stress unhappiness and incompatibility
- Men are particularly upset by sexual withholding - Brehm and Kassin
- Women want to stay friends but men want to cut losses and move on – Akert.
- Men are particularly upset by sexual withholding - Brehm and Kassin
- Women more likely to stress unhappiness and incompatibility
- lack of skill
- model of breakdown rollie and duck
- breakdown
- intrapsychic process
- dyadic process
- social process
- grave-dressing process
- resurrection process
- Each partner prepares themselves for new r/s
- Redefining themselves and building on past mistakes and experiences
- Each partner prepares themselves for new r/s
- After leaving the r/s partners attempt to justify their actions
- Tidy up memories and prepare stories for different audiences, making them look good.
- Try to save face
- Time to get a new life’
- Try to save face
- Tidy up memories and prepare stories for different audiences, making them look good.
- resurrection process
- Involves network of friends and family, seek advice from 3rd parties
- ‘It’s now inevitable’
- grave-dressing process
- Confront partners, begin to discuss feelings and future
- At this point, r/s can be saved or they will start involving others
- ‘I mean it’
- At this point, r/s can be saved or they will start involving others
- social process
- Nothing said to partner but dissatisfied partner might express dissatisfaction in other ways.
- I’m justified in withdrawing’
- Some r/s end here w/out ever discussing the dissatisfaction
- I’m justified in withdrawing’
- dyadic process
- Person distressed with way the r/s is conducted
- ‘I can’t stand this anymore’
- intrapsychic process
- Research support
- Observation of real life breakups
- Tashiro and Frasier surveyed undergrads recently broken up w/ a partner
- They reported emotional distress and personal growth
- Reported new insights into themselves and clearer idea about future partners
- They reported emotional distress and personal growth
- Tashiro and Frasier surveyed undergrads recently broken up w/ a partner
- Observation of real life breakups
- Implications for intervention
- Rollie and Duck’s model stresses importance of communication
- Paying attention to things people say offers insight into their stage and suggest intervention appropriate to that stage
- Rollie and Duck’s model stresses importance of communication
- Ethical issues
- Carrying out research in this sensitive area raises issues of vulnerability, privacy and confidentiality
- A woman in an abusive r/s may fear recrimination from abuser should he discover participation
- Carrying out research in this sensitive area raises issues of vulnerability, privacy and confidentiality
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